Why I Focus on Dating

Hey Lovely!

There are a lot of internal, external, and overall “ternals” that go into a relationship. Let’s face it, the people who told you growing up that relationships take work weren’t wrong in the slightest, but relationships can also be a lot of fun.

As someone who started dating her now husband at 17, dated for a decade before she got married, and never had a “break,” I understand where people are coming from when they say putting in effort is all part of making a sound and happy partnership.

So why so much emphasis on dating and weekends away?

My Story

Looking back at my story about why I started Entwined, you’ll notice a couple key details:

Steven (the hubs) and I were stressed.

We had a lot going on with planning a wedding.

We were working opposite schedules, meaning we saw each other for maybe an hour each day, if that.

The time we did spend with each other was during social interactions with others.

We hadn’t had a date in..weeks..?

We hadn’t gone on a trip in months.

Now, while there are other things that we did end up making changes to, like getting married– making the event planning stress go away– and switching schedules to be home during the same hours, the biggest change was our shift in how we spent our time together.

When we decided to start “Surprise Date Night” I didn’t think its benefits would be as great as they are. We of course get to spend more time together, but yet there are perks to visiting new places and creating new memories TOGETHER.

Reasons why I focus on dating and spending time away:

Being present with each other without the hassle of home life and things you could be doing around the house allows you more time to focus on each other. Sometimes being together somewhere else is what allows you to have more focus on what’s in front of you.

Going on dates also gives you the time to be just with each other. Now, this may sound silly when you’re out around other people, but yet when you get out and are somewhere new together, you rely on the person you’re with because it is a new experience. When you have someone that you’re creating a new memory with, you verbally share more because you are physically sharing more.

A great part about being out is that you can have conversations away from those you may live with, allowing you to be more open and honest with your person.

Going on dates can demonstrate how much you value your other half. When we take someone out, pamper them, allow them to feel good, you create those feel good emotions which can develop deeper connections.

Also, no dishes…and as much as yes! No dishes! There is something to be said about allowing both of you to be taken care of. Dishes are a household chore that often causes strain in a relationship because it can be seen as a “duty” for one person. So let them have time off from something that they probably don’t want to do either. Taking off one ounce of stress from your person can make a world of a difference.

Dating can be crucial to the vitality of your relationship. Experiencing new things can bring about a new connection with your partner that you hadn’t had in awhile, and can allow you to have those moments to express yourself.

So let’s recap.

Date night isn’t the end all be all for relationships. Relationships take a lot of work in and outside the household. They’re built and molded and nurtured.

But what can be said for date night is this:

It allows you to be present in a new environment that doesn’t have the at home distractions
It gives you the time to be with each other and each other only
It lets you have conversations you may not do in the presence of those living with you
It shows each other you value pampering each other
It means no dishes to clean

So have those conversations and work on your relationship inside your four walls on a daily basis, but also realize the importance of sharing outside time with each other too. Time outside of your normal routine can lead to as much learning as time within your routine can.

XO, Sky

Hey lovely, I'm Schuyler.

Your date night enthusiast and lover of finding new local small businesses to visit. Join me while I find and share new locations for your next date night and weekend getaway.

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